Complete guide · 50 behaviors
If Someone… The Hidden Feelings Behind How People Act
All 50 behaviors decoded: what each one really means, what to say, and how to protect yourself. 133 illustrated pages.
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Decode the people in your life
If someoneyells at you…
…it's often pain, not about you.
What it can sound like inside them
If I'm scary enough, no one can hurt me.
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The decoder
Every difficult behavior hides a feeling. Tap a card to see it.
What's inside the guide
Every behavior gets two pages: the feeling behind it, and exactly what to do.
1
See the feeling
What's really going on underneath the behavior.
2
Know what to say
Calm, ready-to-use words for the moment it happens.
3
Protect yourself
Where understanding ends and a boundary begins.
The books
Small, honest guides. Read one tonight.
Complete guide · 50 behaviors
New
If Someone You Love Yells at You
12 reasons a partner yells, decoded. What to say in the moment, the repair talk, and when it's not okay.
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New
If Someone Ignores You
The silent treatment, going cold, ghosting: 12 kinds of silence decoded, and what to do.
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For her
If He Pulls Away
Hot and cold, slow texts, going distant: 12 reasons decoded, what to text, and when to walk away.
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For him
If She Goes Quiet
When she's distant, upset or "fine": 12 signals decoded, and what to say tonight.
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Free
5 Calm Things to Say When Someone Yells
A free 3-page mini-guide: five calm lines, the pause signal, and when it's not okay.
All 3 books for $9.99
The complete 50-behavior guide, “Yells at You” and “Ignores You”. Instant PDFs. $14.97
Understanding isn't excusing. These guides help you see what's behind someone's behavior. They never mean you have to accept being hurt. If you feel unsafe, call 911. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, and you can call or text 988 to talk to someone.
New · printable card deck
The Decoder Deck
50 cards. Front: what someone does. Back: the feeling it often hides, what helps, your boundary and what to say. Print at home or keep it on your phone.
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